My marriage of 13 years ended a few months ago when my husband moved in with another woman. I haven’t said anything about it at work, but I know I’ll have to eventually. The holidays are coming, and I’m thinking about using up my vacation to avoid the parties and the inevitable explanations I’ll have to make about where Tom is. I’d really just like to avoid all the questions; what do you suggest?
Not Ready to Talk about It
Dear Not Ready,
Wow, my friend – there are some major changes going on in your life at the moment, and it sounds to me like you’re trying to take good care of yourself in the transition.
There are lots of directions we could take your question, but at the moment I suspect it’s important just to listen to your heart; if you’re not ready to talk about the changes then don’t. And when inquiring minds need to know where Tom is, consider saying simply, “he’s not here,” and change the subject (“My but it’s dark outside tonight!”).
You’ll know when or if the time is right to confide in the people you work with; until then, take very, very good care of you.
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