Question of the day: Do recruiters have to be nice to be successful? - RecruitingBlogs2024-03-29T04:56:00Zhttps://recruitingblogs.com/forum/topics/question-of-the-day-do-recruiters-have-to-be-nice?commentId=502551%3AComment%3A1516563&feed=yes&xn_auth=noDalton (played by Patrick Swa…tag:recruitingblogs.com,2012-02-19:502551:Comment:15165632012-02-19T19:01:21.464ZValentino Martinezhttps://recruitingblogs.com/profile/ValentinoMartinez
<p>Dalton (played by Patrick Swayze) the Cooler, in the movie <strong>Road House</strong>, said it best:</p>
<p><b><a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000664/" rel="nofollow">Dalton</a></b>: <em>"I want you to be nice until it's time to not be nice</em>."</p>
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<p>Dalton (played by Patrick Swayze) the Cooler, in the movie <strong>Road House</strong>, said it best:</p>
<p><b><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000664/">Dalton</a></b>: <em>"I want you to be nice until it's time to not be nice</em>."</p>
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<p>When being nice is based on withholding the truth of the matter—tell the truth. It may not be appreciated but it will remind people that you may rain on their parade if they want your honest opinion.</p>
<p>In the work of recruitment I’ve found that being decent and respectful goes a long way—but being honest goes even further. Yes, it comes with a price—you may turn-off people you never wanted to turn on.</p> I guess the short answer to y…tag:recruitingblogs.com,2012-02-18:502551:Comment:15162722012-02-18T21:00:18.120ZThomas Abthttps://recruitingblogs.com/profile/ThomasAbt
<p>I guess the short answer to your question is unfortunately no if you are measuring success in strictly financial terms. One of the most financially successful recruiters that I ever met was in fact one of the most disagreeable, rude and unprofessional a- holes walking this earth. But he had a great database of people and desperate clients would put up with his attitude because he was able to deliver quality talent quickly. I can only hope that in his case, money did not buy him happiness…</p>
<p>I guess the short answer to your question is unfortunately no if you are measuring success in strictly financial terms. One of the most financially successful recruiters that I ever met was in fact one of the most disagreeable, rude and unprofessional a- holes walking this earth. But he had a great database of people and desperate clients would put up with his attitude because he was able to deliver quality talent quickly. I can only hope that in his case, money did not buy him happiness because he certainly didn't deserve it. Cheers!</p> I agree with Joseph Brown - n…tag:recruitingblogs.com,2012-02-15:502551:Comment:15138962012-02-15T21:47:24.967ZMegan Bellhttps://recruitingblogs.com/profile/MeganBell
<p>I agree with Joseph Brown - nice doesn't mean super fake, nor does it mean you need to hold back the truth when a Candidate just doesn't fit or doesn't meet the requirements. I literally just got off the phone with a Candidate who doesn't meet our requirments, and I was honest with him, and encouraged him to continue searching for positions more inline with his degree - he thanked me for the advice and the opportunity to speak with me. That is just one human being being kind and…</p>
<p>I agree with Joseph Brown - nice doesn't mean super fake, nor does it mean you need to hold back the truth when a Candidate just doesn't fit or doesn't meet the requirements. I literally just got off the phone with a Candidate who doesn't meet our requirments, and I was honest with him, and encouraged him to continue searching for positions more inline with his degree - he thanked me for the advice and the opportunity to speak with me. That is just one human being being kind and considerate to another - aka NICE</p> I find it absurd, frankly, th…tag:recruitingblogs.com,2012-02-15:502551:Comment:15140792012-02-15T21:42:19.666ZJoseph Brownhttps://recruitingblogs.com/profile/JosephBrown
<p>I find it absurd, frankly, that anyone would suggest that recruiters shouldn't be nice to their candidates... Probably because I find it hard to distinguish between being respectful, polite or courteous, and being nice. Personally, the ooey gooey syrupy nonsense mentioned above isnt what i consider nice. I find that patronizing and rude, so maybe thats where my opinion differs with some here.</p>
<p>I wonder how many of you who say there is no place for "nice" in recruiting treat your…</p>
<p>I find it absurd, frankly, that anyone would suggest that recruiters shouldn't be nice to their candidates... Probably because I find it hard to distinguish between being respectful, polite or courteous, and being nice. Personally, the ooey gooey syrupy nonsense mentioned above isnt what i consider nice. I find that patronizing and rude, so maybe thats where my opinion differs with some here.</p>
<p>I wonder how many of you who say there is no place for "nice" in recruiting treat your clients, or your boss for that matter, in the same fashion that you treat your candidates. I imagine that if you used the same "i dont need to be nice" idiocy with your clients that you claim you use with your candidates, you'd be spending a lot of time hunting for new clients, or looking for a new job.</p>
<p>Being nice doesnt mean you arent honest with your candidate, it means you're not a jerk when you talk to them. When i interview a candidate and determine that they are not a fit, i tell them they arent a fit, and i tell them why. I'm polite, im frank, and im nice about it. Generally speaking, there is no reason NOT to be nice in my opinion... </p> During the process of filling…tag:recruitingblogs.com,2012-02-15:502551:Comment:15136962012-02-15T19:29:25.570ZGlenna Halliganhttps://recruitingblogs.com/profile/GlennaHalligan
<p>During the process of filling an order, I think having empathy (to a degree) and your delivery matters. I truly believe that as a recruiter, you have to remember that your product is a human being...not a number.</p>
<p>I agree there shouldn't be any "sugar coding" when it comes to the candidate on the clients behalf, but I have been the nice recruiter and I have also been the tough one (out of frustration mainly) and in the end, you get a better review from both the client and job seekers…</p>
<p>During the process of filling an order, I think having empathy (to a degree) and your delivery matters. I truly believe that as a recruiter, you have to remember that your product is a human being...not a number.</p>
<p>I agree there shouldn't be any "sugar coding" when it comes to the candidate on the clients behalf, but I have been the nice recruiter and I have also been the tough one (out of frustration mainly) and in the end, you get a better review from both the client and job seekers if you grin and take the situation head on. Leave the frustration for when you get out of the office.</p>
<p></p> Professional, Respectful and…tag:recruitingblogs.com,2012-02-15:502551:Comment:15139012012-02-15T15:30:45.312ZChristopher Poredahttps://recruitingblogs.com/profile/ChristopherPoreda
<p>Professional, Respectful and Honest (about their background, the market and the prospects of helping them) is all that matters. You can be nice and lie to them, over promise and ignore them but that won't get them anywhere. People respect the three attributes I mentioned and respond well to them.</p>
<p>Professional, Respectful and Honest (about their background, the market and the prospects of helping them) is all that matters. You can be nice and lie to them, over promise and ignore them but that won't get them anywhere. People respect the three attributes I mentioned and respond well to them.</p> Remember "Soup Nazi" from Sei…tag:recruitingblogs.com,2012-02-15:502551:Comment:15137012012-02-15T14:59:51.015ZSureshhttps://recruitingblogs.com/profile/Suresh97
<p>Remember "Soup Nazi" from Seinfeld, he could get away being rude, because of the product he was putting out there and everybody wanted it.</p>
<p>In reality, it doesn't last for ever, there is someone new or better out there in the market who is competing with you.</p>
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<p>Remember "Soup Nazi" from Seinfeld, he could get away being rude, because of the product he was putting out there and everybody wanted it.</p>
<p>In reality, it doesn't last for ever, there is someone new or better out there in the market who is competing with you.</p>
<p> </p> To be nice is fine, but unles…tag:recruitingblogs.com,2012-02-15:502551:Comment:15133452012-02-15T01:26:32.374ZAmberhttps://recruitingblogs.com/profile/Amber689
<p>To be nice is fine, but unless a person is also good at what they do, professional, courteous, and ethical then they are not going to succeed for long at any business.</p>
<p>(Although, I have known plenty of distinctly not nice people who had none of those attributes but yet were always "getting ahead". I keep hoping karma comes into play eventually!)</p>
<p>To be nice is fine, but unless a person is also good at what they do, professional, courteous, and ethical then they are not going to succeed for long at any business.</p>
<p>(Although, I have known plenty of distinctly not nice people who had none of those attributes but yet were always "getting ahead". I keep hoping karma comes into play eventually!)</p> Hi Tim,
I love this question…tag:recruitingblogs.com,2012-02-15:502551:Comment:15133412012-02-15T00:39:27.526ZRobert Fanshawehttps://recruitingblogs.com/profile/RobertFanshawe
<p>Hi Tim, </p>
<p>I love this question and fall down on the side of 'yes'. However, as per the other article, "nice" needs to be defined as its very emotive and depends on your perspective of what "nice" is. For example I can think of many people that are always "nice" but that I find totally annoying (which is very nice!)</p>
<p>I think a better way to look at is as "caring" and I think this spans all sides of life including recruitment. If clients, candidates, employees, bosses etc etc feel…</p>
<p>Hi Tim, </p>
<p>I love this question and fall down on the side of 'yes'. However, as per the other article, "nice" needs to be defined as its very emotive and depends on your perspective of what "nice" is. For example I can think of many people that are always "nice" but that I find totally annoying (which is very nice!)</p>
<p>I think a better way to look at is as "caring" and I think this spans all sides of life including recruitment. If clients, candidates, employees, bosses etc etc feel and see that you care by your actions (which they will percieve as "nice") then you will have trust and influence.</p>
<p>With trust and influence our jobs as recruited become much much easier to do.</p> Agreed Brian, fill a tough sp…tag:recruitingblogs.com,2012-02-14:502551:Comment:15135022012-02-14T23:43:56.282ZSandra McCartthttps://recruitingblogs.com/profile/SandraMcCartt
<p>Agreed Brian, fill a tough spot for an employer or place a candidate and one becomes the nicest person on the planet even if one has to beat someone almost to the point of silly putty to make it happen. Smiling while one does it. </p>
<p>Agreed Brian, fill a tough spot for an employer or place a candidate and one becomes the nicest person on the planet even if one has to beat someone almost to the point of silly putty to make it happen. Smiling while one does it. </p>