o splits here. I often get calls cross border but because visa/work permits have tightened up so tremendously it is impossible to complete assignments. But here, yes, splits work in trusted relationships.…
a robot could detect a danger zone).
Dating and mate-seeking roll purely in the PERSONAL ZONE so when you call those out in any arena, particularly in recruiting, you are awakening one of the most powerful dynamics that make us all (at least most of us) only human. To assume this is an innocent play on words is actually being coy. And being coy in the realm of recruitment has no place for "dating" and/or "mate seeking" in my view.…
themselves and these times of discord, doubt and discontent are an excellent lever to set this transformation in process.
Now I’m gonna go all hippie-dippy on you. Before you turn the page, let me tell you something - these guys had more going on than drugs. Some of them had a drug of spirit that said by turning away from the world one is able to embrace it. This isn’t a new concept – it’s been whispered down through the ages, audible to the few who could decipher it in the din.
Anthony de Mello, SJ, wrote, in the mid part of the 20th century:
“How shall I help the world?"
"By understanding it," said the Master.
"And how shall I understand it?"
"By turning away from it."
"How then shall I serve humanity?"
"By understanding yourself."
A belief system like that got Father Mello, a Jesuit priest, into hot water with the Catholic Church. (It’s not the only or first time a Jesuit found himself in hot water with the Catholic Church - that’s a whole other topic.) But the establishment’s resistance to a thought process that evolved into a free-thinking approach to what it means to be human and pathways to understanding that are outside the norm of convention is not an uncommon response to an individual seeking serenity.
Sometimes circumstances present themselves in such a way that at first they feel like impediments – like roadblocks in our journey. Instead, if we turn the thing on its head and look at it from new angles, we can see that we’re being presented with chances, openings, breaks – a chance to change, an opening to advance, a break to take a breath, capture our thoughts and then act.
The “unknowing” aspect of this experience is rich with possibility. Heather Bussing, one of our more disciplined and formidable minds here on RBC, pointed us to a little ditty rich with meaning in her recent post, “Not Knowing is Sometimes Exactly The Right Place to Start.”
There are some of us who will “awake” during these times. And there are some who will keep on dozing, their time not yet come. As an exercise towards “awakening” I thought it might be fun to list the things we all wanted to be when we grew up. Don’t be afraid to sound silly - I’ll go first.
A princess (who wouldn’t?)
A skin doctor (always fascinated by morbidity)
A treasure hunter (I sorta’ am one, aren't I?)
How ‘bout you?…
onsider leaving. Although this reason can be beyond the workplace, most often it is not.
It is my fervent hope that employers start awakening to the idea that investing time, dialog and dollars in employee containment is no substitute for employee retention, in its truest form. There are employers that practice these principles and they make up my best clients.
The ones who fail to see the value of becoming a magnetic employer continually provide the talent pool with great candidates.
As the overall candidate pool becomes inverted with no available talent soon, due to demographic facts, those companies that practice retention principles while concurrently tranforming into a magentic attractor of talent will weather the impending perfect storm. Others, I fear, will not.…
idiot is not only experiencing the hard wind impact on his body, but is also running the risk taking a bug or bird-impact that could leave a crater in his skull or chest with the added possibility of a hit to the eye(s) which would end up in a shredded mess.
Having fun on my motorcycle commuting from home to college on the bad-land highways of New Mexico--I recall the day I blew past (doing 100mph and climbing) a station wagon full of kids waving at me as I passed. I inadvertently lifted my left hand to wave back at them and literally felt my left arm whip-back as it tried to leave my arm-socket. The unexpected wind-force was a rude awakening of what I already new would happen but didn’t think to think in that millisecond. Still hurts just thinking about it.…
thought that there has to be more than this, that I have not yet reached my potential. If this is the case, I better get at it. I better find the road that will take me to my potential. I pray that road isn't a dead end.
What can I become? Are you afraid to keep asking that question? How often is it possible to re-invent yourself? I believe it is probable that we can re-invent ourselves every day. Almost eight years ago, someone I know asked himself these same questions. His questions drove him to find answers. He was running his own leasing business and was very successful. He had completed his MBA, but was he really accomplished? Was he really successful?
9/11. Business became a little more challenging but never one to shirk a challenge, he pushed forward. Then, the questions loomed huge over his head after the unexpected death of his father. His business focus shifted to closing his business instead of growing it. The death of his father was his butterfly effect. I understand this because "he" is my brother, Andrew, and I experienced something very similar when our father passed.
In the leasing world, you are successful if you help other people go into debt. This was no longer something Andrew felt good about doing. "I really loved nurturing, developing and helping other people." He pursued a second Master's in Personal and Executive Coaching. "My dad was young. He was a dreamer and he always focused on doing something bigger and better. He was always so healthy." There were many dreams that he never realized.
"It was an awakening moment for me. He was sixty-five, I was thirty-five and it was the first time I felt vulnerable, that I could fail, that I was mortal. I realized that I am going to die and if I am like him, I have about thirty years left. I took inventory of my life and my business. " That is when Andrew realized that what he was doing, his business, isn't what he wanted to do. "How do I get out of here? My dad was too young to die and there was so much left unanswered about his life."
"While the early years of my financial career had been very creative, I suddenly felt very stagnant." But he was afraid to let go, there is a lot of ego tied up in being the president of one's own company and having built a landmark office in the local community. He quotes Tom Cruise from Risky Business, " 'Sometimes, you gotta just say what the heck...' I am going to go out and do this for me. That is what my dad always did." In 2002, shortly after our father passed, Andrew started Telios Corporation where his specialty is Behavioral Executive Coaching - and it is safe to say that he loves what he does.
Andrew just completed his PhD and will graduate later this month. I think he's done with school, but I have learned to never say never. "I am a good listener and my clients get that I am a good listener. I can say the truth to them and it doesn't hurt their feelings." What does all of this have to do with recruiting and HR? Everything. "The most important asset really is the human side of the equation - focus less on the resource side. We have the resource side down, time to focus on the human side."
"Life is too short not to live it. Bringing life and leadership into harmony." That's what it's all about. Love Today