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Topic: Feeling Guilty? Me Too!: ict and religious upbringing, maybe it just comes from an inordinate accountability that I feel, maybe I just feel responsible for everyone and everything I come in contact with... Whatever the reason, I feel guilty whenever anyone around me fails or gets hurt. I could have done something about it, I could have prevented it from happening... While guilt or fear can be used as a good thing, it can also be debilitating. You may have heard of my experiences as a Corporate Recruiter with a Technology Start-up Company in Newport Beach. I loved this job. I loved getting up for work every day and making my one to two hour commute, really I did. I would make phone calls or listen to audio books but even if I just listened to music or nothing at all, by the time I arrived at my destination, I was pumped up and ready to work. I embraced the vision of this company and really believed we were destined for greatness and wealth. Always a good thing to hope and dream for, right? I was able to recruit fifty-four people in less than ten months to this organization. Their titles ranged from Vice President to Director to Manager to Chemist to Research Associate to Admin Assistant. Many different folks joined the company as a result of my efforts, my buy-in to the company vision, my ability to woo, my ability to recruit. About eight months into the gig, hiring started to slow down even though the hiring projections were 120 new hires by twelve months. Job descriptions changed mid recruitment, compensations dropped, start times were postponed, and there were a significant amount of closed door meetings. I knew something was up almost instantly. It was like a cold chill ran across my desk and I could feel a freeze, the big chill, coming on. I knew my job was at risk and I struggled for a couple months with the decision of if I should leave or not. How could I leave all the people recruited? How could I not tell them what I suspected? Massive guilt began to set in and a battle waged in my head and my heart ached consistently. How could I choose to jump ship when I had all but thrown a party every time a new hire came on board? I did finally make the extremely painful decision to leave. That was a year and a half ago. Hiring ceased and one, two, then three Vice Presidents left shortly after I did; I had recruited two of them. Slowly, all the folks I had brought to the company either left on their own or were subjected to a series of layoffs. I have been guilty of feeling guilty. I am sure many of you can relate. Understanding that maybe my ego was helping me hang on to my guilt has helped me to let go of it. I think I feared that my former co-workers held me responsible. Chaucer said, "The guilty think all talk is of themselves." Like jealousy and hate, guilt is a useless emotion that brings very little good. Fear of guilt may drive us to make better decisions but clinging to it keeps you from letting go and reaching out for new and better opportunities. I am learning to let go, I think it might be a life-long process. But I am not going to feel guilty about it. by rayannethorn…; Added by Rayanne at 11:30pm on April 30, 2009

Topic: Referral Lead Creation- Creating an Abundance of Great Leads: every candidate sourced and communicated with, will be the 'right' fit for our assignment which means we now have a greater referral creation base from which to build a foundation for our continued success. Follow this simple script to generate high quantity and high quality leads! Referral Lead Creator- Past Candidate Step One: Small Talk / Chuckle Hello, Jim? This is Ron Mason with Ron Mason International. How are you doing? Great! Listen I was thinking about our last conversation and decided maybe I should leave sales. Your pitch was awesome. Step Two: Ask I’m calling for a couple of reasons. First, I’d like to ask you a question. Even though you have never worked for a company I recruit for, based on your experience with me through interviewing with my clients in the past, would you feel comfortable referring me if you knew anyone who was looking at new job opportunities? Step Three: Promise Great! I want to assure you Jim, that if you did recommend me to anyone, you will never regret it. I will make their goal, my number one goal. I will give them excellent service. I will keep you informed through out the interview process. It is important to me that you know how much I value your recommendation. Step Four: The Reason / Help The other reason for my call is to ask you if you know of anyone thinking of hiring or looking for a new job in the near future. You see, Jim, the job market in our area has been very active, and most of the Candidate’s I work with have landed in new jobs, so I need great people for my clients. Step Five: Who Do You Know Who…? Who do you know who might be interviewing or looking for a new job? Step Six: Probe ( Close Three Times) 1. How about someone you currently work with? 2. Anyone in the neighborhood? 3. Anyone from the last company you worked with? Step Seven: Permission and Commitment No? Well, I appreciate your help. Let me ask you, Jim, from time to time there are new opportunities and changes in the market that could affect your income. If I were to keep you posted on those changes, would that be of value to you? So if I kept in touch would that be okay with you? Great, then, I promise I will. I offer tele-seminar courses, group coaching and individual coaching, specifically focused on relationship based recruiting, sales process and accountability. Ron Mason Coaching . Let's get in communication, so if you have any questions, thoughts, ah-ha's or objections, shoot me an email. ron@ronmasoncoaching.com…; Added by Ron Mason at 7:26pm on August 11, 2008

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Blog Post: How to Prepare for a Topgrading Interview: I found this interesting: in the past couple of months the top keyword search strings that lead people to this blog were often about…; Added by Jonathan D. Davis at 2:53pm on December 14, 2010

Blog Post: The Personal Benefits of Social Media: Last week was the UK’s first recruitment unconference and it was certainly an interesting event. I was working the Social Media Track with…; Added by Wendy Jacob at 7:38pm on November 24, 2009

Blog Post: Future financial decisions you must take today: This post is important for many people and in most of the cases, we fall in this category. This is because we do not think about our future and end up messing all our plans. So, if your age is…; Added by Madeline Wallace at 12:26am on November 14, 2015

Blog Post: A tale of social recruiting, employer branding and the candidate experience: Picture the scene. Its mid-December 2010. I’m happily minding my own until the mobile rings. “We’ve seen your profile on LinkedIn,” an in-house recruiter explains, “and we’re wondering if you’d…; Added by Ben at 4:43pm on July 20, 2011

Topic: Dave Mendoza Reveals "The Dark Side of RecruiterEarth: When Funny Is Actually Spite": tory behind its formulation and its intent is anything but funny. I waited a couple of days to let this this situation and its implications 'sink in' to properly address all the issues involved. Today I will make an attempt to remove any ambiguity on where I stand on the video, its creators, Chris Lavois - a public figure in our industry. It started as a 'gag reel' to loosen up for a more serious video about an entirely different topic matter. I requested, and I was promised, - without any ambiguity - that this video would not be produced nor aired at any time. In emails to date, this has been confirmed by Chris LaVoie, a Recruite earth Co-Founder, that he fully understood that it was never my intent to have this video shared with the general public. You may be asking yourself why it matters, "It was funny Dave, why the issue?" The video you may have seen was originally taped in November at Kennedy Expo four months ago. I was given no expectation that the material would be aired, I was not informed of the video by Recruiter Earth, nor did the video even give credit to RecruitingBlogs.com nor Jason Davis. Above all, I want to inform Recruiter Earth's membership that the video you saw was edited entirely out of context, of which none of this material should have been on aired. Chris LaVoie and Recruiter Earth never had legal rights to make it available to the public and overall it wasn't a funny situation. Overall it was an abuse of trust. The video was made to look like a comedy at the expense of my friend Jason Davis and though it is a funny Video, RecruiterEarth's intent was not meant for comedy and I'll explain why. Let me give you a bit of background on the process that led to this seemingly, lighthearted video: This past September, Recruitfest, Toronto, was produced by Recruitingblogs.com and a cocktail party was hosted at the home of Jason Davis. Being one to enjoy "Where are they now" Baby pics I took a photo as a prank on my friend, Jason Davis, on my iphone of a picture frame. A month later on Halloween when Jason asked me who I was pretending to be for the holiday, I told him I was going as "him" - he was puzzled but a few hours later I used the little boy picture as my own profile photo for the day. The initial intent on my part was that of an innocent prank, a shenanigan, - but It was poorly executed and the impact was something I could not have expected 4 months later and has been a matter of personal regret. As a partner of RecruitingBlogs.com, I know first hand that decisions to ban members are never easy. Over the last several months Chris LaVoie has been an active participant on RecruitingBlogs.com but instead of being active by adding content and participating in the ongoing conversations about recruiting, Chris would use RecruitingBlogs.com in order to promote RecruiterEarth in a way we like to call 'Predatorial' networking. His behavior was that of someone whose sole purpose was to attract RecruitingBlogs.com membership to his own, with the intention of selling products to them. You see I am the first to tell you that Recruiter Earth is slick, just like its leadership. The word "slick" is defined by Webster's dictionary, however, as "deftly executed and having surface appeal or sophistication, but shallow or glib in content; polished but superficial." The look and feel is that of a Vodka ad in GQ magazine - and it feels that way because it is indeed utilizing its membership information to continually promote its Red and Black book of passive candidates, among other products. We at RecruitingBlogs.com spent at least two months determining whether to ban Chris Lavoie from RecruitingBlogs.com, and once he was banned - he shot back at jason by banning JD AND then manipulating my gag reel - with Recruiter Earth going out of their way to make it look like it was through my own consent. It is no coincidence, that four months after that video was shot that it would appear without warning or notification just as he was being banned himself from RecruitingBlogs.com. The video was produced to spite Jason Davis, myself and RecruitingBlogs.com because he was removed by our community for his lack of respect. The timeline and the lack of consent is consistent with this conclusion. The fact that Chris LaVoie continued to air the video after informing me he would remove it merely confirms this understanding. As much as i would like to take credit for being funny, this was a concerted effort to have as many people see this as possible and completely taken out of context. The more I learned about the timeline of actions leading up to the video being posted, the more I understood it was no coincidence. It was Chris LaVoie's way of giving a middle finger to RecruitingBlogs.com after he was banned. I am absolutely appalled. I always found Chris to be a personable sort of guy, the kind you can crack a joke with down the hall of a conference, but interestingly enough Chris was always fond of closing a conversation with "Let me know when you're ready to join the "Dark Side." I certainly saw the site's underbelly this past weekend and over the last several months hitting our membership to join his own site. What is more interesting is that Chris repeated this refrain right as I was about to hang up the phone telling him to take the video down. It speaks volumes that Chris would view himself and Recruiter Earth in this manner. It is easy to contrast the healthy ecosystem as reflected by Recruitingblogs.com - a community whose membership can be secure without fear that their private membership data will not be sold to vendors, and whose leadership works to benefit its membership with transparency and worthy, user generated content without the hollywood glitz. This description is decidedly contrary to that of Recruiter Earth, whose membership is availed to vendors, a constant stream of vendor related spam, and whose leadership can often be found lurking from profile to profile promoting a competing site and its products and spamming its membershp via email. It is a depiction Chris LaVoie thinks is funny, or perhaps a freudrian slip of the tongue of how he views his practices as compared with that of our own at RecruitingBlogs.com. It is not, however, how Jason Davis and I do business nor do we find such juvenile responses to being banned humorous, pitting one friend against the other to show spite. When the goal is to sell people things rather than to build community, I agree with Chris, it is the 'Dark Side' of the industry and it is what we are trying to Change - not continue to propagate as the image of an industry we want people to take pride in. Sometimes what seems funny turns out wrong, but it becomes unethical when the sole intent is to manipulate it as an instrument of spite. PS: As soon as I posted my response to the Video on RecruiterEarth Chris Lavois banned me as a member of RecruiterEarth within 5 minutes, then he banned Maureen, I assume Jerry Albright - Oh Well lol - really Chris be an adult. There are so many simple solution, like for example, taking the video down you have no signed release for nor stated permission otherwise - and apologizing. Escalation is pointless especially against individuals not even involved because they shared opinions on the matter. Chris Lavoie - I would appreciate it if you apologized. It's warranted.…; Added by Dave Mendoza at 11:40am on February 10, 2009

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