I am blessed to be an active part of the lives of my children. One of my rewards is being a basketball coach for my son, Reed-o and his team of 4 and 5 year olds.
So there I was last night. 6:45 pm at the YMCA. We head in there, take off our coats and get right to it. We start with free throws and then move on to dribbling around the cones, bounce passing and eventually wrap up with some scrimmage activity. Nothing too exciting - but the kids love it!
Half way through our practice there was little Brice – a “struggling” young boy with crooked glasses. This little guy can barely get the ball up to the rim – which is set at just above 7’. He so desparately wanted to make a basket like the other kids. We tried and tried to position him in just the right place in front of the basket, hands exactly spaced on the ball, just the right amount of ‘umph!” and after 10 or 12 tries HE MADE IT! What a joy for little Brice. He was so excited he looked over and said “Hey Mom! I made a basket!”…….
Sadly when we both caught Mom’s eye (she hadn’t been paying attention) it was apparent she was on her cell phone in a “very important” conversation. She simply couldn’t be bothered with it right then. I mean – she had brought him there – wasn’t that enough? Wasn’t she doing her part?
That wasn’t really any big epiphany for me. Happens all the time. This is the 5th or 6th kids team I’ve coached. Nothing surprises me any more. Half the parents act as if they would rather be anywhere other than with their kids. So parents not really being interested in their children's sports activities makes me feel bad for the kids – yes……but doesn't surprise me.
But something did dawn on me as I looked around the rest of the court we were practicing on. Out of 6 parents there – believe this or not – only 1 seemed to even be watching. The rest were ALL ON THEIR CELL PHONES!
Texting I think. Twittering? Possibly. But to whom? About what? What could be more important than taking ½ hour out of your day to spend time with the child you just picked up from day care 1 hour before?!!!!????!!!!!?? Hey parents – would you at least pretend to give a $#&%?
Are we so caught up in our virtual lives that the one right in front of us no longer holds our interest?
Sadly that seems to be the case.