Attending networking events can be fun. It can also be work... It is called netWORK
ing, right? I attend my share and typically
enjoy it. I like the people I meet and I enjoy the opportunity to share a little bit about myself, along with learning a bit about others and their businesses. The chance to speak about my company and what I do is invaluable. Plus there is, typically, good food and we mustn't forget door prizes, right?
I attend a Tuesday luncheon every week. I have made some key business contacts and some good friends. But I recently ran into a bit of a situation with a fellow member who, if I were his colleague and we worked together for the same organization, would probably be fired for creating a hostile work environment due to sexual harassment. And he seemed like such a polite and innocent guy
- someone who has really worked hard over the last couple of years to gain some business savvy and public speaking skills.
How can you trust authenticity?
It always surprises me when I learn that I have been duped or played. I guess I just expect that people will be decent, that they are
decent. That they will play by the rules because it is the right
thing to do. Often, business professionals are far from being professional and it really shouldn't come as such a shock to me. I hate to ask it, but is there such a thing as being trustworthy anymore? Is there such a thing as decency anymore? Is anyone really a lady or a gentleman? Does anybody really know what time it is? (sorry, couldn't help myself)
I guess how we react will determine our own level of decorousness. Following my gut has aided me in the past, so I will continue to heed my innards. But I will approach this guy
with a little more care. I will be less likely to refer business his way - who am I kidding? I will probably refrain from ever referring anyone to him, ever again. And that is the saddest thing of all,
don't you think? We attend these events to expand our circle of influence, to increase our revenue, and further develop potential business relationships. And to think, there are so many warnings regarding online
Working in human resources and recruiting requires that we work closely and speak often with "people." Trust is requisite to our livelihoods. My question: how do you manage when that trust has been broken or violated? Do you let it color your vision or alter perceptions? I don't see how it cannot, for we take it personally, don't we? We rely
on the information we personally filter. We hold in confidence
that our gut is right and we hope
that all is well. And reliance shouldn't make us weak, but somehow, taking advantage of it does. Care, confidence, trust, reliability... what do they really mean?