inted out by the others who stayed on topic in this particular post that great leaders know how to utilize each individuals strenghts, gives them duties to accomplish that are based on those strengths and when it's all said and done at the end of the day, when each team member has been defined in that order, you typically get great synergy and success. And NO egos crashing in the way. People tend to get caught up within themselves because they are unsure of either their role, or their security within themselves to actually deliver that role if it's not their strength. And when they are out of their comfort zone because perhaps they are being utilized for their weakness versus their strength, they feel a need to "defend" themselves, or proove themselves', and before you know it, like you stated, it's ego's bouncing off the walls like ping pong balls. That's also not to say that you can't develop a weakness. It's like practicing a sport, or an instrument, etc. You just need more practice and that is best done either alone or with a paid coach. But not in the actual arena. Who wants to go listen to a symphony orchestra as an example, who are just learning how to play their instrument? No one. It's awful. But once mastered, and then brought together as a group, a team; it's usually quite lovely.
Enough said on this topic. Thanks for sharing. I like how you "style" stuff. Your personality, or what I believe to be your personality really comes out. Or rather, it matches your picture. And the fur! I love the South! So charming. It's like the British. They get away with murder because of the accent. Southerners get away with murder because of their charm, grace, and poise. I'm not implying that you're a murderer, but I think you get my general point.
Sandra McCartt said:You are correct the thread has derailed. Why don't you step up as the group leader and take it back to the original topic of a group/team with diverse attitudes and personalities. It might be interesting to pick a topic and work the problem as a group.Honestly, i am not a team player. I have run teams, been a part of teams, managed teams, organized teams and finally had to decide that I don't function as well in a team environment. That is why i own my own business and work with contract recruiters instead of employees. Finally had to realize that i get more done, enjoy life more and make more money as a race horse than i did as manager or part of a team. My take is that teams may come up with great ideas but they drive me to distraction. Self realization and getting ego in order is sometimes a real relief. Crazies make me crazy and people who talk to hear their head rattle or take everything as a personal insult are tiring. Those exist in most groups. I can be the queen of snark and used to spend a lot of time pointing out to idiots that they were idiots. Finally occured to me that telling an idiot they were one just made them a bigger idiot and wasted my time and emotional energy.I sat on many charitable boards over the years where due to it being volunteers the egos bounced off the walls like ping pong balls. Finally started introducing myself as not being a team player but my value to the board was best utilized when there was a last minute crash that required someone who could get something done fast at the last minute. Or i might be able to share a little insight on personnel matters but i don't do well or contribute much attending meetings to plan meetings.Do you think that it is helpful in a team or group to point out that the contribution of an individual has no value or could it to another team member even if it doesn't to me or you?I have the ability to lead the charge of the Light Brigade but we all know what happened to the Brigade so i will ask you to step up and lead the charge. :) Perhaps the topic might be how can we as a group make more relevant contributions or germane contributions to the site. Your thoughts?Peter Ceccarelli said:You should see the stuff that I don't comment on! I state my point of view if I think it's relevant and I also point out comments that I think don't add value. I don't believe I would interpret that as being critical. It's just my right as just another voice out in the world to share my thoughts and comments like the rest of you. So in that sense, I do contribute my part to raising the conscious level of this site, or any other site I might visit and comment on. As do you and all the others. I come here to learn, to see a different point of view, to educate myself, and also for sheer entertainment. This particular post has turned out to be sheer entertainment for me! It's "funny" to see how threads evolve into something not even closely related to the original topic because our "ego's" do get in the way and sway us off course. But on the other hand, perhaps that was the course it was supposed to take. I don't know. Geez......another good example of how the ego can be mostly distracting! And I have one too. We all do. We'd be dead if we didn't have one. The challenge is keeping it in check or at the very least, being aware it's popping its ugly head up in order to be seen. There are better ways to be seen. I'm still working on that part too!It's alway great to hear from you!Sandra McCartt said:Peter,You seem to be an interesting personality. You mention leaving ego at the door and expressing opinions with tack and respect yet you repeatedly express your opinion that this site has little of value to you because it's full of babies, bullies, reminds you of high school or junior high and for the most part not of any value to you.My question is , if something posted is not interesting to you or you are past that level or you don't find it amusing why is it necessary to be so bloody critical and above it all? Why not post something yourself and share your experience instead of repeatedly denigrating those who do? Perhaps you could assist in bringing the site up to your standard of relevance.