We have looked at two different angles of how accepting a counter offer can change or limit your relationship with your current employer. I am now going to try and explain the employer perspective.
So after you bring your new offer to your current employers and they frantically piece together a counter offer, here is how the next few weeks play out in their head.
Stage 1 – Relief
They are happy and relieved that they have averted losing one of their top people. Whoa, that was close, we’re so happy they’re staying.
Stage 2 – Re-Assess
Now that you have negotiated more money for less work (possibly) you are happy, you feel valued as well as having a fair deal.
What your employer realizes is that they have just given a raise to someone without that individual talking on any additional responsibilities, what? That can’t happen can it. You are now the highest paid person in the department and have no additional responsibilities and are possibly working less than everyone else too. You must be slacking. You just got a big raise and are doing less work – you should be doing more work than everyone else.
The highest paid people have to work the most so we can get our “money’s worth!”
Stage 3 – Paranoia
So now you are the employee that makes too much and does too little and paranoia starts to creep in. You don’t work as hard as you used too, you make too much money and what are you doing with all that free time. You have just recently applied to other companies and who’s to say you’re not doing it again. Who are you talking to on your cell phone, who are you emailing – you can’t be trusted.
Behind closed doors management are second guessing what information they can trust you with – are you still thinking about moving to the competition. We should just pull the trigger and move on!
Of course this is all very dramatic and overblown BUT it does have a seed of truth. You current employer may feel betrayed after time and if that happens the trust will be gone. Once the trust is gone – so are you!
Now there is another option here. You employer could honour every aspect of your new negotiated terms and things could be just fine. Then after a few weeks or months you will realize that you are getting paid more to do the exact job you wanted to leave. Sooo, here we go again.