Career advice: It’s something that I’m sure you’ve received from many sources over the years. You’ve been given advice from mentors, friends, co-workers, from coaches, the internet, and yes, family when it comes to your job search.

Everyone has their own opinion. Some advice will conflict with what you’ve already heard. Some will be so radical that you’ll change how you do things in the future.

How do you cope with all this during the already stressful family get-togethers around the holidays?

Here are a few tips to make the most of any situation during your holiday:

Stay cool. Chances are that you’re going to be asked something like “have you found a job yet?” or even worse, “what’s the deal with you not finding a job?” The automatic reflex is to take offense or to fire back with a snarky comment. Don’t. Instead, remember that most likely, this person is simply trying to help. As a family member, this may be hard to recognize (you may be used to being pushed around by your older siblings, cousins, etc.). They do want to help - they just may have a funny way of showing it.

Share your story. Take this opportunity to explain to them your situation and how they could help you. Don’t take for granted that they already know you’re in the job search. Ask them who they know, what they could help with, and hold them accountable. You’ll earn some respect and the turkey will taste a little better.

Bring a side dish – your sense of humor. When you’re inclined to fire back with that snarky comment, remember your sense of humor. People love to laugh. Laugh with them and keep them from laughing at you. They may not understand your situation. Explain this to them. Remember to keep a positive outlook – no one likes a Debbie Downer, especially during the holidays. Again, if they understand your situation, they may be able to help. If they don’t know you need help, they can’t help you!!

Get some fresh air. With all the family, friends, food and football (I call it the 4 F’s) of Thanksgiving, there may be a time where it’s too much to handle. Take a breather. Go outside for a walk. Take a nap. Watch a movie. Whatever it takes for you to relax, just do it. You’ll be glad you did. Also, this is a time for wonderful food, but too much can put a person in a bad mood, especially if you’re watching your weight. Don’t forget to exercise. A little treadmill action can help clear your head and reinvigorate you!

What are your holiday job search tips? Any pointers for dealing with those that make it more difficult while trying to help?? Feel free to add your tips in the comment section below.

As always, thanks for reading and Happy Thanksgiving!!