Jane - (I'm assuming your name is Jane) this part of your reply makes me sad:
Plus trying to get my manager to sit still for a minute is like trying to nail jello to the wall.
Hearing about any manager who is too busy to sit down and talk about a send-out (several actually) bums me out. I fondly remember sitting in my bosses office with my notepad any time I was strategizing my next step. We would light up a couple of smokes and get to it! That is how I learned.
Every placement is unique. They're like snowflakes, really. You never know what sendout is going to be your placement until it reveals itself to you........
Sorry your boss is too busy to share in these things with you. I really mean that. Feel free to call me directly any time you might need some input.