7 ways to make networking a pleasant experience

They say timing is everything. Nothing illustrated this more than when I entered a hall full of networkers today, and a woman I had never met approached me before I even put my dollar in the contribution jar. It was as if she came out of nowhere like a dive-bombing sparrow from the sky.

Honestly, I can’t remember what this woman said. Something about how one of her fellow networkers, who couldn’t make the event, wanted me to have her personal business card so I could contact her later. 

It was unclear why I had to contact the woman’s fellow networker. What’s more, her fellow networker needed my business card, which I handed over. I only caught a portion of what the woman said, and then she was gone.

This, folks, is what gives networking a bad name, whether you're networking at a job seeking event or business group. Something as important as developing a relationship should not be made unpleasant from point of contact. I was invited as a guest and, being the introvert I am, was already tense. This is the way organized network should go.

  1. Approach potential connections slowly, yet confidently. Don’t spring upon a person like a car salesman hiding behind the row of Suburbans. The encounter I described above…I’m still recovering from the surprise attack.
  2. Make eye-contact with someone before approaching. One can tell a lot about a person from the causal eye-contact. Is the person approachable? Or is he taking in the atmosphere and readying himself for an introduction? Don’t push it.
  3. Smile. I think some networkers have become aggressive because they’ve been out of work for longer than expected, or they want to make business connections fast. They expect immediate results, when the purpose is to establish an amicable connection. A smile can hide anxiety or desperation, both of which make people uncomfortable.
  4. Extend your hand in a non aggressive manner. One thing I learned from the guest speaker of that day's event is that woman should never hesitate to extend their hand, as it shows assertiveness and indicates she’s receptive. That said, do so gracefully and don’t squeeze the hell out of the other person's hand. No limp handshakes or wet palms either. As my daughter would say, "Ewww."
  5. Give the person your undivided attention. Later in the morning I was talking with someone who kept looking past me like she was expecting Prince Charming to come through the door. I realize I’m not Brad Pitt, but come on. If it ain't happening, make an exit gracefully.
  6. Don’t offer your personal business card if you don’t mean business. It’s a waste of paper when you have to toss away a personal or professional business card of someone with whom you have nothing in common. It’s not going to kill you if you have nothing in common with a networker. Let's not waste paper for courtesy sake.
  7. Catch the person on your way out. Do you ever leave a party without saying goodbye to the host? Of course not; that’s just plain rude. Make sure you afford your potential contacts the courtesy of letting them know you’re leaving. Otherwise, they’ll get that feeling of being blown off or continue to look for you during the rest of the event.

On my way back to the office I stopped by the neighborhood Panera Bread, where I ran into a contact who runs a business networking group in the local area. The meeting was easy and refreshing and reminded me of what networking is all about—great conversation with the suitableness of networking in the background yet ever present. The timing was just right.

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