From our first day on this earth we're working and learning about finding our place where we feel comfortable, most ourselves. While I feel comfortable in my own skin, I'm facing a new and old kind of advisory which I thought I had left behind.
While I'm a shrewd competitor, I'm also one who is a very social and positive person. No, I'm far from Pollyanna, but I do always look for the best in others, and it is one of the things that makes me special and different. It's also something that can put me in harms way and is risky and naive. Like most people, I do my best to learn from my mistakes. Over the past few months I have had some life lessons because of these qualities and have been taken advantage of by others. I'm not one of speak ill of others but if you read my blog, you know some of the situations I may or may not be referring to.
So like any person who is a life-long learner, I set out for some sage advice about finding MY
place. And after talking with someone
who's opinion I value dearly and look up to, the advice they had for me was this. . .
Jessica Miller-Merrell, known as @Blogging4Jobs on Twitter is a published author and leading HR blogger and new media strategist whose mission is to bring business thought leaders together to move new media as well as the human resource industry forward. Her current projects include providing HR, recruiting, and new media consultancy with her company, Xceptional HR. Her newest project is Texting4Jobs, a text based job board platform recently launched in Oklahoma.
- Grow thicker skin and keep ignoring it. Remind yourself that those people don't matter.
- Improve your skills in dealing with people. Get better at stepping in without stepping on people's toes. This is a life-long process.
- Downscale your dreams. Let go of your ambitions.
- Move to a place where ambition is more culturally accepted.
place, a place where I feel me and where those I hold close understand, support and accept me. It's a place that is my sanctuary and is free from judgement and judging. While I can't think or speak for others, the advice I received has me thinking about finding MY place. And MY place (pictured above) happens to be along the beautiful beach of Waikiki in Hawaii.
place and what are you doing to do to get there? Do you have what it takes?
Photo Credit me, JMsquared.