Have you experienced a situation like this at an early-stage interview--you're excited to be there, a bit nervous expecting the difficult questions to be fired at you, but the interviewer is doing 100% the talking?
Then toward the end of the interview, you ask if he wants to ask you any questions, to which he replies, "No, I read your résumé. We're good to go." You're wondering what the hell happened. You didn’t have the opportunity to sell your skills, experience, and accomplishments.
Some of my customers complain to me about similar scenarios, while others tell me they felt relieved and grateful for not having to talk. Those who felt relieved erroneously believe the interviewers were doing them a huge favor.
Interviewers who do all the talking are not doing you a favor; they’re hogging your precious time. And although you’re nervous at the time, it’s essential that you achieve what you went there for--to sell yourself.
You never want to come across as controlling the interview, but sometimes you have to break in so you can inform the interviewer why you are the right person for the job.
So how do you break into the conversation?
First of all, don’t make assumptions. One assumption might be that it’s an inside hire and the interviewer is just trying to take up time. Another might be that the company is required by law or according to their policy to interview a few candidates. There are a number of reasons why the interviewer is blabbing like a fool, but chances are he's simply self-absorbed and unaware of his duty.
Know when enough is enough. After the interviewer has rattled on for a number of minutes, it’s time to put a halt to the monolog. There’s a chance the interviewer might get on a roll and sabotage the whole process.
Don’t get belligerent. Saying, “Aren’t you going to ask me questions?” won’t leave a good impression. You’ll come across as rude and trying to control the interview.
Break into the conversation in a seamless manner. “The management around here leaves a lot to be desired,” he is saying. This is your cue to answer one of the most popular questions; what kind of manager do you prefer?
“Where I last worked, management was very good,” you break in. “They were fair, communicative, and had their priorities in order. I’ve worked under many different management styles from hands-off to hands-on. I’ve thrived wherever I’ve worked because I can adapt to all types of styles.”
Later he says, "Our customers are very needy. They require a lot of hand-holding--a real bunch of idiots."
You counter, "Interacting with difficult customers is one of my fortes. In fact, many of the difficult customers were routed my way because I had a very patient attitude which the customers could sense. I managed to revive many failed customer relations."
This may put a halt to the interviewer’s loquaciousness, or he may continue to drone on and on. But you can’t give up your efforts of getting yourself heard. The next time you hear a break in his monolog, engage him again by summarizing your job-related skills and accomplishments, declaring you're the person for the job.
At the end of the interview inform him that you'll send along an e-mail outlining how you can address many of the problems he was so kind to elaborate on. You may want to ask him if you should forward it to his manager and HR.