Blogs, Responses & Hurt feelings …

I had the pleasure of being invited as a Guest on the Recruiting Animal Blogtalk Radio Show – after getting thoroughly prepped by Animal the day before and listening to previous episodes; it seemed that I would have to adopt an aggressive stance- not my normal calm consulting demeanour. But I loved it – I brought my 3 nails, a mop and a shovel, in case I had to dig my own hole … Even though I scored a minus 1 to 50/100 by some of the industry experts on the show I would still love to be invited on again I don’t mind getting crucified its fun and you are wired for an entire 1 ½ hours… I LOVE IT !

As a regular contributor to recruitingblogs.com I totally enjoy writing blogs responding to blogs, questioning opinions or positions on the Status quo, old concepts … new concepts - we all have thought out or not so thought out opinions we what to share - we all can learn something from each other and we all bring; I hope some years of experience to the table to lean on when making an informed response to a blog.

It seems however, that a number of bloggers on this site have a problem with a difference of opinion with respect to responses and actually hold grudges over a response that might show a different point of view - to the point of personal character assassination which is crazy in a funny kind of way. Look if you are a blogger and can’t take a new perspective or a challenge then stick to being a spectator. You’re not supposed to take it personally - it’s just in opposition to your posted blog - a proposed perspective. Why would you want readers to only agree with your perspective - if other perspectives can be logically proposed.

I want to be challenged on an idea or position I take in any of the Blogs I write, it makes it more exciting, it keeps me on my toes – why are some people so afraid to be challenged and not be questioned…? How do you learn anything…? How boring a World it would be if we agreed with everyone all the time. So we get into a tussle, and we argue - I have no problem apologizing if I cross the line… I do it every time. But we are “Recruiters First” we have crazy personalities that sets us apart from other Professions... Let’s embrace that not bury it- we are one family…

And, finally, no amount of research of a person’s background can give anyone the right to assume they know someone - so personal character attacks says more about what’s lacking in you than the person in your crosshairs…. Nothing wrong in seeking a little group or individual therapy it really works … (Ok I had to throw that in J).

If you write a Blog be prepared to have your position questioned, challenged or supported with new perspectives … This is why I like recruiting blogs the characters on this site makes it an exciting online property to be on, I welcome constructive criticism and trust me … you won’t hurt my feelings …

Comment by Jason Monastra on March 31, 2011 at 11:54pm: Solid position but I must have been blessed without having people that have gone this distance. Most of the people that comment are having good insight and provide information that offer value to the conversation. Differences in opinion or different perspectives is exactly what I am looking for to ensure that I learn more each and every time I have a conversation with someone on the network.

But I have yet to have an argument or anyone take it as a personal character attack. I will have to watch some of your posts to see what people say!

Comment by Paul Alfred on April 1, 2011 at 6:55am: @Jason, thanks for your feedback ... Sometimes I take a break from Blogging just to read about what others have to say and I did that in the last 3 months-in that time I do a lot of responding to other blogger posts and sometimes not often, you get the defensive push back of folks who would just wish you would just agree with them and move on ... I am always going to utilize my experience and add perspective based on that experience.

Comment by Paul Alfred on April 1, 2011 at 7:05am: @Rayanne ... Yes you missed a wild show it was Off the Chain, the hook and my new term off the chisel ( Borrowed from Snoop Dogg)... I just realized that I had a analyst on the show that had it out for me from a past response I made to one of his blogs back in 2010... So I went back in to check what it was I said that pissed him off so much to keep a grudge that long and realized there were 3 other responders to his blog who agreed with my position- not sure why he was still angry at me... What makes it worse - I am the reason he does not want to come back to recruitingblogs as stated in his response ... Little me Wooo .... How can you have a constructive conversation with someone if you hold animosity against that person... Ahh well.... This is really what spurred me to write this blog...

Comment by Paul Alfred on April 1, 2011 at 7:14am: @Rayanne ... That song really sums it up ... I love Depeche Mode too ... :)

Comment by Jerry Albright on April 1, 2011 at 7:15am: The world would be pretty boring if we all agreed all the time. I'm always interested in other points of view. I'll admit though to being pretty convinced I'm right most of the time. I can't help it. :)

What I don't like are the personal attacks/threats. And it happens.

In my opinion anyone on any blog that is offering the "I know what I'm doing - you don't" advice should be prepared to at a minimum come out from behind the curtain and prove they are a real person.

Comment by Paul Alfred on April 1, 2011 at 7:28am: @Jerry ... You're funny ... Thanks for chiming in ... I have to agree with you on the personal attacks - Well advice has to be measured on the years of experience an individual brings to the table.

Comment by C. B. Stalling!! on April 1, 2011 at 10:08am: 2 myself. I do not aggree with alot of people out there. I lioke to do things my way. But need to relize that there are many ways to do the same thing

Comment by Keith Goodwin on April 1, 2011 at 1:00pm: Touche! Speak your mind in a professional, thought provoking manner. Share thoughts - make your own conclusions - without insult or injury.

Comment by Nancy McGarry on April 1, 2011 at 1:21pm: "But we are “Recruiters First” we have crazy personalities that sets us apart from other Professions"

Hahaha! I had to laugh at this comment and point out that that is a huge perception and in some cases 'misperception'. That's my humble opinion ;).

I concur with your thoughts on sharing concepts. I think it's great to have discussions and voice opinions but the personal attacks aren't going anywhere productive. It's more fun to find humour in a blog you don't agree with rather than attack the person behind it. Thanks for sharing!

Comment by Valentino Martinez on April 1, 2011 at 1:24pm: I learn from the learned and that's always a good thing, even when there are points of disagreement.

The important things is to at least be of the mind to be of some help and not a pant load.