employment situation. I wasn’t sure whether they were seeking my advice about their current employment or how to approach the search for something else. (They are currently employed, but looking for a new position).
They referred to several challenges in their situation making them feel it was necessary to leave their current employer sooner rather than later. While, I didn’t delve into all of the specifics with them, they shared enough that I would agree, they need to find a new source of a paycheck.
They have already been looking for a new job for several months but weren't satisfied with their progress, even though they have been contacted quite a few times for phone screens and onsite interviews. Based on that fact alone, it sounds like they are being reasonable about their qualifications in relation to the positions they pursue. And, it sounds like they are at least minimally presentable on paper, online and perhaps in person to be invited to interviews.
So, then I thought a few other issues that could be going on preventing them from sealing the deal. One possibility is that once the conversation becomes more serious, they do or say something that disqualifies them from further consideration. Or, perhaps they don’t say or do anything wrong, but the hiring party “just isn’t that into them” for one reason or another. If so, either way, it’s probably something extremely subjective, and maybe even different each time, that it would be impossible to speculate about.
We talked more about the interviews themselves and what, if any, follow-up steps or feedback they inquired about and how they did so. They said the always ask about next steps and the timeline for those to take place. I asked if they ever get any hint, feeling, instinct about the interviewers’ perceptions during their call/meeting and if anything ever seems like a concern. They said “no, the interactions always seem positive and I’m given the impression that I’ll hear back soon to discuss further. But then, I never hear anything from them. My calls, messages and emails are never answered.”
At that point they said: “I don’t want to sound crazy, but is this normal? I mean that’s not how I do business. I call people back and answer my emails, so I don’t understand what is going on here!”
I said, well unfortunately, it shouldn’t be normal, but it is extremely common to not get a response from an employer if/once they decide they won’t be moving forward with you. Obviously, that is not how it should be and you shouldn’t take it personally or let it get you discouraged. The best thing to do is not get too emotionally attached to any particular position at any stage of the process.
Remain optimistic and enthusiastic, but keep moving forward with a neutral mindset about each transaction. In a roundabout way, I felt like the only logical thing I could tell this person was to change their perspective to being “pleased” when they do get a response rather when “upset” when they don’t.
Essentially, the only way to avoid feeling like a crazy fool is to lower your standards. Now, isn’t that foolish?
Why can’t “our people” figure out the importance of showing some appreciation for the time, effort and energy candidates put into applying and interviewing for a position? If given the choice of being rejected or being neglected, practically everyone would appreciate the former.