Being laid off is a blow to the ego, no doubt. The good news for today’s victims is that they’re in good company. Economic declines are always accompanied by job loss, but in this unprecedented downturn, it’s rare to find someone unscathed. Still, like losing a loved one or going through a divorce, job loss brings with it a grieving process. It’s important to recognize everyone must move through the stages of grief and that they’re not linear; that is, you’ll move between the various stages throughout the grieving process.

Here’s what you can expect if you find yourself in this situation.

Denial- It’s not uncommon to be shell-shocked when you get the news of your release. Like a spouse who won’t sign divorce papers, you may be inclined to protect yourself from the pain by resisting it. The sooner you can come to terms with the situation the sooner you’ll begin the recovery process. For job seekers we often see that they will not change their LinkedIn profile or send out updates to say they are looking.

Anger – Playing the blame game is typical, and while it’s not productive, it’s important to let yourself move through this stage rather than pretend all is well. It’s okay to feel angry and perhaps betrayed; just don’t let it control you.

Bargaining- In an effort to retain your position, you may be tempted to offer to reduce your compensation, go part-time, or become a contractor for your current employer. While these may be viable options, it’s likely your employer considered them before moving to a layoff. It doesn’t hurt to ask, but don’t be surprised if the response is no. And ultimately, would you really be happy under these new terms? If you’re honest with yourself, probably not.

Depression- Feeling blue is to be expected in this situation. The important thing is that it not become debilitating. If you find depression persists, seek professional help. A key to this aspect for job seekers is to get out often and surround yourself with positive people – not get together with those that sit around to cry the blues.

Acceptance- Eventually, you’ll make peace with the change and embrace the future. It’s in the Acceptance stage that you’re confidence will return and you’re most likely to land your next opportunity. Remember that when one door closes, often it is another, perhaps better one that opens – albeit not always apparent at first.

Remember, being laid off isn’t the end of the world. In fact, people typically report being in a better place as a direct result of their job loss down the road. You could be offered a much better job or follow your passion and start the business you’ve always dreamed of that you’d never have had the nerve to pursue had you not lost your job! Finally, understand that being released from a job isn’t about you, it’s about your employer’s financial condition. It can happen to anyone, and like hundreds of thousands before you who’ve experienced it, you too will get through it. Good luck!